A Sense of Worth

It’s so easy to take those people who are closestTo us for granted. After all they know we love andRespect them don’t they? Yet we’ve all had theExperience of feeling unappreciated in our ownHomes. It’s not so much that we need to pleaseEveryone all the time, but we do need someAcknowledgment of what we do for others andSome recognition for what we accomplish.Following are a few of the things we can do toHelp make sure that everyone in our householdFeels valued.So much is going on in a house that it is easy toBe distracted. How often we listen to others withJust half an ear without even realizing it. Yet eachPerson needs to be heard and to feel theirOpinions are valued by others. Take a moment toVisualize your home. Does it have a quiet placeWhere people can converse with full attention onEach other? Are their places where each personCan really feel listened to? If your TV room is alsoYour living room are there times when the TV isTurned off so people can talk together? Even inThe kitchen is there a place you sit down andReally listen when needed? At bedtime do yourChildren have a chance to talk with you? ABedtime story can help open up conversation.Look for ways you can foster communication inYour home. When we are truly listened to we feelRecognized.Birthdays and holidays are special to mostFamilies. But there are many other occasionsWhen we can celebrate accomplishments orHallmarks in our home. How about the day yourBaby takes his first step or your daughter playsHer first soccer game? Are the adults included?It can mean a lot to mom if the family does aSomething to honor her first published poem orA finished painting. Recognition of little eventsCan mean even more than big events as theyAren’t just expected. Making a joyous occasionOf occasions like this helps each person knowThat their dreams and efforts are worthwhile.Celebration doesn’t have to cost much money.When we make a special meal or create aHandmade gift for someone we are giving fromThe warmth of our heart. Sometimes just aComputer made banner or a vase of flowersFrom the garden is all that is needed to make aHousehold member feel special. DisplayingCreative work or awards in a prominent placeShows we value ourselves and each other.Often in our busy-ness and discomfiture withCompliments we miss letting in the appreciationThat others do express. By the free giving ofSincere compliments and by showing ourGratitude when others do something to honor usWe gradually learn to be more comfortableReceiving the gift of recognition. To feelRecognized and worthy is far different than falsePride which actually comes from a place ofFeeling unworthy. When we are quietly confidantThat our accomplishments are recognized weFeel a sense of fullness and are able to easilyGive of ourselves to others.~~Anne Johnson~~

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